Friday Night Out with Candace

With unwashed hair, I ventured out to dinner with great friends tonight for the first time with Candace (my wig) on my head.  I mentally prepared all day for this outing - I wanted to look good and feel confident, doing something I normally do on a Friday night.

It was fun and our friends are fantastic. But it didn't really feel normal at all.  I was paranoid about Candace.  Was she straight?  Is she too low on my forehead?  Too high?  Why on earth can't I tuck my hair behind my ears without it popping out?  (Note: take Candace back to the salon to have her thinned out.) Is she lopsided? Does everyone know this is a wig?  Am I really wearing a wig in public?

She traveled up to Maine in her travel bag and had gotten a little messy.  I had to learn how to 'style' her (which was easier than I thought in the end) and had a panicked call to the salon in the afternoon to remind me what to do.  I had to decide whether or not to wash my hair (one of my 2 times a week) before I went out - did I have enough time for my hair to naturally dry since I can't use a hairdryer (cold capping - check out one of the earlier posts) and I can't put Candace on a wet head? Answer: no.

As you can see, there were way more decisions to be made than 'normal' and it made me anxious.  But I did it.  And I'm glad I did.  I feel like I ripped the bandaid off and future outings will be easier.  I'm a planner and this took a lot more planning and thought than I anticipated.  Lessons learned.

And as for that hair wash, I'll tackle that tomorrow. xo J

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